When was the last time you made a difficult choice? 🧐
Was it a head-over-heart one? 🧠
Or, was it a heart-over-head one? ❤️
Self-loving decisions vary case by case. Some feel easier and some feel more challenging than others. Not every heart-aligned, mindful decision feels easy-peasy in the moment of making it. At least, that’s the case for me.
The tougher ones definitely pushed me to explore my own dark side with curiosity, especially when I caught myself hesitating to let go of old habits! 🦇
Regardless of how long you’ve been on your self-love journey, making that important, wise decision for your overall well-being and stability can still take a lot of strength out of you.
Sometimes, your self-loving decision is to listen to your intuition more fully than just your logical thinking.
Because the situation asks you to let go of control in the unknown and trust the divine timing, not your timing (Heart-over-Head choice). ❤️
And sometimes, your self-loving decision requires you to stay focused and continue to show up with integrity in your communication with others regardless of how petty or irritating you feel emotionally inside (Head-over-Heart choice). 🧠
Or perhaps, honoring both your heart & head at the same time feels more self-loving to you (I’m still learning the balance of this)!🧠❤️🌹
Here’s the thing, though:
after making the so-called self-loving choices that are “supposed to” make you feel better, lighter, and more liberated, depending on the extent of your sensitivity, you might experience certain emotional complexity such as indescribable awkwardness, anxiety, sadness, or even the need to mourn or isolate yourself.
And you wonder why you feel quite the opposite from joy… 😳
For instance:
* Letting go of a long-term friendship saddened you and made you feel remorseful.
* Saying no to a job environment that no longer fit stirred up worries about your future stability.
* Reopening your heart to make new connections after experiencing trust issues brought anxiety.
* Choosing to confront someone for clarity by expressing how you truly felt brought discomfort and stretched you intensely.
* Taking a bold move in a new way that you’ve never tried triggered your vulnerability hangover.
Deep down, you probably already know that in order to restore mental peace and emotional fulfillment, making certain hard choices is unavoidable.
How can we amp up the after-care of a tough decision-making process since it’s also part of the self-love practice? ❤️🌹🪷
To get more grounded and centered, here’s a self-honesty inquiry I’d invite you to contemplate before, during, and after making the choice:
Do you look forward to repeating a cycle with this particular energy (people, things, places, situations, behaviors, thought patterns) that you’re dealing with?
If yes, why? 🤔
If not, why? 🤔
Before making any external outward decision, it’s always an inward process. Listen to your intuitive guidance, don’t overthink or over analyze. 🌹
Just because you weren’t used to making self-loving decisions in the past, it doesn’t mean that you don’t have the capacity to show up for yourself consistently from this point on. 🔥🌸
If you happen to make a difficult decision that brings any emotional waves today, big hugs 🫂 to your vulnerable self, I celebrate your bravery and courage for showing up for yourself! And remember tomorrow is another brand new day!! 🔥🌈⭐️☀️
Don’t give up on continuously exercising your self-love muscle through making any tough decision, my friend. Make it the fuel for your sacred transformation! 🔥💪
“Being honest with ourselves leads to the door for healing and greater awareness.” — Jen Yang
xoxo,
Jen
